Vulnerability

"In order for us to be connected, we have to allow ourselves to be seen." ~ Brené Brown.

This week, on my birthday, I had the opportunity to present to a women's group about the work that I do.  When I received the invitation, I hesitated briefly.  In my family, we have a tradition of taking time "off" for our birthdays.  But really, I thought, why should I take time off from doing something that I love?  I decided to jump in.

It turns out that it was a wonderful choice.  I was so inspired and energized by this great group of women!  They engaged with me during my presentation, and we had some meaningful discussion.  One of them had even seen on Facebook that it was my birthday, and surprised me with some flowers!  I was really touched and humbled by their hospitality and generous listening.

It also turned out to be great, because during the course of the meeting, one of the women, Marilyn Shannon, recommended a TED talk for us to watch.  It's about vulnerability, and it's about 20 minutes long, so I saved it for this laid-back Saturday morning.  Wow!  What a great way to start the day!

In the talk, Brené Brown talks about a lot of things that are important to our lives -- courage, connection, compassion, and authenticity.  I loved it when she referred to the original meaning of courage -- "to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart."

It isn't always easy to be who we are, instead of who we think everyone else wants us to be.  It turns out, though, that being vulnerable allows us access to the rich, full lives that we all long for.

All this made me think of my own willingness to be vulnerable.  As I started this blogging adventure, I have to admit that I felt self-conscious.  I really felt inspired about creating this celebration -- yet on some level, I also felt uncomfortable that it might seem uninteresting, or worse, self-centered.  On some level, those are all part of the old conversation that many, if not all of us, have -- "I'm not enough".

What will happen in my life, if I allow myself to be seen?  What would happen in yours?  Are we willing to find out?

Brené's excellent talk is just below, and I hope you'll make time to watch it.  When you do, I'd love to hear your reaction. What do you think?

Beginning

I'm not sure where the idea started, but it has been brewing for awhile...

At some point, I began to think about how each birthday represents a completion.  When we turn one, we have completed a year of life.  We continue to call ourselves the age of our last birthday, even though we've already started another journey around the sun.  Isn't that curious?

I am drawn to journeys more than destinations.  So perhaps that is why I made up my mind several months ago to reframe my approaching 50th birthday.  Yesterday, I celebrated a wonderful 49th birthday.  Today, I am beginning my 50th trip around the sun!  I am calling it my "golden orbit".  I intend to create a year of celebration -- not about me -- but about this amazing life that I am privileged to live.

I don't know what this celebration will look like, but I am inspired by the opportunity to inquire, and grateful for anyone who would like to join me.  The beauty is that we aren't bound by milestone birthdays.  We are bound only by our imaginations.  We actually could choose to create a golden orbit at any moment. For me, it centers on a question:  How will I discover (uncover) all that is golden in my life?  It promises to be a journey full of gratitude and inspiration.

As Lao Tzu said, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step".  With a deep, grateful breath - I am taking the first one.

Wishing you well in your journey!